Monday, March 27, 2006

Cosmo question of the day

I was visiting up at work yesterday, and the question was asked: Is it important that your significant other gets along with your friends? We had mixed answers, but I wanted to see if anyone else had any other comments to make. General answer was no, but it would make big group events easier and more enjoyable. Somewhere along our conversations, I even found myself quoting my mother, who had quoted someone else in stating about relationships, "You don't want a peacock, but you don't want a hedgehog, either." Most of the people agreed that they weren't even sure what a hedgehog (the animal) was. That distracted a lot from the message I was trying to get across, but a couple people got it. :)

7 comments:

JZ1 said...

Wow, I get to be the first to contribute.... (evil laughter fading into the distance)

Considering my significant other is so darn likeable and I have this rising suspicion that most of my friends enjoy HIS company more than MINE, LOL, I would say yes and no. Being the extremely social person that I am, I would hate to have my buddies not get along with him, but being the extremely defiant and pig-headed person that I am, I may be inclined to not really care all that much. It's a toss up. I have had some friends date guys that are so slimy they could charm a nun right out of her habit and it was VERY hard hang out with them, as much as I wanted to see my friend. Plus, this may cause a disturbance in the original relationship between you and your friend. Either way, I've noticed that whether or not it is a girlfriend, boyfirend, or a platonic friend, a person will tend to gravitate to the same kind of people, so chances are they'll get along anyway.

Diane said...

I'm supposed to have friends??

No. 2 said...

LOL. Diane, you crack me up.

Oldnovice said...

I agree with the general consensus at your work. It's NOT important, but it makes for more pleasant group situations. I've come to the conclusion, though, that some relationships aren't designed to go beyond the one-on-one stage and it's perfectly okay that they don't. Isn't this why "girls(guys) night out" is popular and how we enjoy friends of the opposite sex BECAUSE they're totally different from our mates?

I dunno; seems like we all have so many sides that we click with one person on one side, but that side is a side that may not click at all with someone who clicks with one of our other sides. LOL. Say THAT 10 times fast!

The peacock/hedgehog thing is more about physical beauty. The peacock is beautiful, and knows it, strutting proudly. The hedgehog is considered ugly, although...yeah...I've never seen one either. You can see one here. The thinking was that a mate should be chosen from the wide array of subjects between these two extremes. It was thought that the peacock wouldn't be able to resist the advances of those seeking such beauty, but there must be SOME beauty to maintain YOUR attraction. This is a little different than Jimmy Soul's recommendation:

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall
As soon as he married her and then she starts
To do the things that will break his heart

But if you make an ugly woman your wife
A-you'll be happy for the rest of your life
An ug-a-ly woman cooks meals on time
And she'll always give you peace of mind

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

[Sax solo]

Don't let your friends say you have no taste
Go ahead and marry anyway
Though her face is ugly, her eyes don't match
Take it from me, she's a better catch

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

[Spoken:]
Say man!
Hey baby!
I saw your wife the other day!
Yeah?
Yeah, an' she's ug-leeee!
Yeah, she's ugly, but she sure can cook, baby!
Yeah, alright!

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you


Notice the repeating lyrics? It didn't take much to keep us amused in 1963.

No. 2 said...

I've definitely already had my peacock! :)

Th3Yungin said...

I totally have a different impression of what that peacock/hedgehog phrase means.

I think that the peacock isn't just an attractive person who knows it. It is an attractive person who flaunts it. (shows plumage).

On the flip side (where my real gripe lies) i think that the hedgehog is not an unnatractive person, but one who keeps others at bay...an especially defensive person. That kinda person wouldn't allow you to get close to them (aka needly spines)

It just seems like you guys are focusing more on the physical part of the metaphore, and missing (what i think is) the point. Personalitys are what you need to look out for more than anything.

As far as the original question goes, i think that if you have enought time to see both your friends and your romatic interest seperately, you don't have to worry about them getting along, unless one of them is possesive/controling in which case you'll have problems.

If you are pretty pressed for time, though. You should probably have a matching set (or one that doesn't clash), since you can't see them seperately without neglecting one, and a group thing would be awkward/uncomfortable if they didn't get along...

Oldnovice said...

I think that the peacock isn't just an attractive person who knows it. It is an attractive person who flaunts it. (shows plumage).

On the flip side (where my real gripe lies) i think that the hedgehog is not an unnatractive person, but one who keeps others at bay...an especially defensive person. That kinda person wouldn't allow you to get close to them (aka needly spines)


I'd agree with the first part about the peacock; both were in play as Virginia described it to me. You MIGHT be right about the second part, too; Virginia didn't say much about that. Sometimes, though, I've noticed that physically unattractive people TEND to be standoffish simply because they don't think they're worthy. Human society rewards prettier people by ASSUMING they have more positive attributes. This is true from birth to death. If offered a lineup of potential murderers, people will tend to choose the least attractive as the criminal. It's definitely not easy to be unattractive.